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These are always good. When was the last time you heard a “bad” moan during sex? The volume and intensity of the moan is a good rule of thumb for knowing how turned on she is. Oftentimes, her moans/sounds are subtle and deliberately well-placed, so pay close attention to these, they are blatant signals.
NOTE: Her responses to your words are often heavily influenced by how congruent your words are with your beliefs and behaviors. Your dirty talk will have little to no effect if you have low self-esteem or confidence. I want you to burn that into your memory.
4] Things Left Unsaid/Unspoken
These are just as important as what she says/moans. The absence of her discontentment does not mean discontent (to your words) is absent. Women often won’t tell you they dislike something in fear of appearing rude or disrupting the mood. If it isn’t painful or too uncomfortable, they will often leave it unsaid.
So her lack of enthusiasm or silence is a way she can signal her discontent without upsetting your ego. She doesn’t want to take the chance of discouraging you from trying dirty talk again by making you think she isn’t enjoying it, so she remains silent. Isn’t she a good girl?
In short, pay attention to what isn’t being said or getting a response. Be sure to factor in your lady’s temperament. For example if she’s not very talkative outside or inside the bedroom, then you need to focus more on nonverbal cues, but if you do get a verbal cue then it most likely means she is really enjoying herself.
Nonverbal Signals
Body language during sex is more pronounced and exaggerated due to her wanting to consciously show her enjoyment (or discontent.) It is an attempt on her part to make you aware of how something is making her feel.
1] Neutral Expressions
Neutral expressions of any kind could potentially be a false negative or positive. Steer clear of using them as an indicator for her enjoying your flavor of dirty talk at that moment.
2] Facial Expressions
A genuine smile, grin, mischievous look, or wide and excited eyes all signal her enjoyment. A furrowed brow, raised eyebrow, a snarl, or tight lips signal her dislike. Of course this list of positive and negative expressions is not exhaustive.
When she is silent, facial expressions are your best friend for knowing whether she is liking your language or not.
3] Breathing
If her breathing suddenly quickens and she writhes against you, keep those words flowing! If her breathing deepens, it could mean what you said deeply relaxed or aroused her. Any change in breathing is usually positive.
4] Muscle Tension
If she stiffens up, recoils away from you, gives you a cutting sideways glance, then she doesn’t like what you are saying. Muscle tension combined with facial expressions will give you a better indicator of whether she likes or likes your dirty talk. Using more than one form of body language to calibrate your dirty talk is best, as it gives you more confidence in knowing you are right about her enjoyment of lack thereof. The better you know her, the better you can tailor your dirty talk.
Getting Her To Talk Dirty
A lot of times, you will be saying sensual and dirty things to her and she’s not verbally responding. It’s possible she is enjoying it, but maybe it hasn’t crossed her mind to get involved. To be honest, I don’t care if a woman talks dirty to me, since I approach dirty talk from the frame of “dirty talk is for leading her mind.” Not her mouth. However, some of you might want to hear her speak delicious filth to you.
It’s simple: You get her to talk dirty using commands and assertive questioning.
For example:
“You like it when I […]”
“That feels good doesn’t it?”
“Do you want me inside you?”
“I own that slut pussy…you’re my slutty girl aren’t you?”
“Tell me you’re my dirty slut”
“Spread your legs, and beg me to fuck you”
“Talk to me, tell me how good you feel”
To get her on a dirty talking roll, ask her a bunch of questions that require “yes” answers like the first three examples above.
Another thing to consider is to make sure that you tell her how much it turns you on when she said [something dirty] to you. Don’t worry too much about getting her to talk dirty. Drop your inhibitions, talk dirty to her and she will follow your lead and open up to talking dirty as she gets more comfortable with it.
