Oh, really? Mr Happiness?
:)
Sorry, I hope you know I’m teasing.
GreenArrow11
Yeah, yeah.
And no, I’m not happy shutting everyone out.
But it’s better than the alternative. Letting people in is a recipe for disaster.
GracieLou
But that’s what any meaningful relationship requires.
GreenArrow11
You’re wearing yourself out trying to serve everyone at the expense of yourself. Is that making you happy?
GracieLou
Sometimes. It can be so fulfilling.
GreenArrow11
“Sometimes.”
“It can be.”
There has to be something better than that.
GracieLou
If I shut everyone out, I’ll be miserable. I can’t live like that. I *need* people.
I just need to not be a 24 hour, made-to-order buffet.
GreenArrow11
Then maybe open a taco truck, instead. Don’t offer everything to everyone, but offer what makes YOU happy. When you run out for the day, you close up shop, restock, and serve until you’re out tomorrow.
Let yourself help people in a way that makes YOU happy.
GracieLou
That sounds amazing, honestly.
But I don’t know how. I tried setting a limit a couple of months ago at work, and no one would listen. There was this case I didn’t want, but my boss said I was the right person for the job. So instead of advocating for myself rationally, I took the job and then blew up my whole world. What do I say to create a boundary without hurting other people?
GreenArrow11
I don’t know. That’s why I don’t let anyone in.
And don’t tell me I’m a hypocrite for telling you how to solve a problem using a solution I would never use on myself. I’m not a hypocrite, because it’s not a problem to me, okay?
GracieLou
